Stop Hurting the Ones You Love

(If this does not apply to you, let it go. But read it, just in case it does.....)

Why do you poop and puke on your family and friends? Why do you weaken the one you depend on? Why do you dump your toxic waste where you live? Why do you pretend you are strong and knowing, when you feel weak, lost and afraid?

It seems that many learn to give their worst to the ones they claim to love best. It seems humanity has been taught to criticize is helpful and engenders improvement. It appears that you and many like you believe your ugly thoughts and words don’t do harm. If you love, if you want the best, if you seek improvement, start with yourself!

Yes, I am talking to the ones who seem to think hurting people with critical demanding words is OK. Yes, I am writing to those who believe thinking hateful harmful thoughts do no damage. Yes, I am speaking to the husbands and wives, parents and children, who are acting with malice. Yes, I am sharing with you who sometimes dump all your negative feelings and words on others.

It is counter-productive to criticize. It is ineffective to accuse and bruise with words. It is weakening to blame those you need to be strong. It is hurtful to all to display your cleverness and power with ugly words and outrageous behaviors.

You are hurting yourself everytime you hurt others. You are condemning yourself when you damn others. You are defeating your intended purpose when you poison those who love you. You are displaying your inner faults every time you are critical of others.

Private bathrooms were created for the purpose of keeping garbage away from other people. When you feel the need to dump negative emotions, angry thoughts, mean feelings, do it in private. Use a journal to write and then throw the toxic material away..preferably without re-reading it. Shout alone on a hilltop or in your car or into a pillow. Release your negative energy by sweating it out with exercise and physical exertion.

Your stuff belongs to you. Stop thinking someone else filled you with negativity.When you have blaming, demanding and critical thoughts and feelings, they are yours to clear. Settle the score, the resentment you have inside, instead of hurting the ones you love.

When negativity comes up, step back and ask your inner self; "What do I really want?" "What really is upsetting me?" "How can I heal and clear this issue within myself?” To harm another is harmful to you. When you attack, you will fear being attacked. When you weaken another, you will receive less benefit from them (never more!) When you kill another’s Spirit, you are defeating your higher purpose and true goal.

I know you get the message. I know you know you need to change. I know you understand you are simply doing what you were taught. I know parenting and our society has contributed mightily to this problem.

However, you are the solution. Be creative. Seek help. Stop the craziness. Find a better way.

Loving you, Betty Lue

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