Don’t Bother

Trying to fix or change another may feel like a judgment, an attack or a statement of “better than”. Wishing someone would be different is a judgment and a lack of love for who they are. Working on getting someone to be what and how you want is manipulative. Hoping you can affect change in another is a way of saying you are right and they are wrong.

Love is trust and freedom.When you Love, you trust the other is always doing their best. When you Love, you are appreciative for the good you see. When you Love, you give others your support, encouragement and affirmation. When you fear, you judge the other is not doing their best. When you fear, you criticize the negativity and what you see as bad. When you fear, you offer you opinions, criticisms, judgments and suggestions. When you emotionally assail another with your hurt or angry feelings, you are not loving them or yourself.

The best teacher is a clear role model and example. The best teaching is one that is being lived rather than being told or demanded. The best student is the one who is happy and willing because they feel loved. The best success comes from holding the highest vision with confidence, clarity, consistency and commitment. The most ineffective teacher is inconsistent and does not live their own teaching. The worst teacher demands, threatens, bribes and treats the student disrespectfully. The worst students feels scared, unhappy, unappreciated and unheard because they feel unloved. The worst failure comes from being negative, abusive of self and others and lacks clarity, consistency and commitment.

I recommend that we step away from telling or teaching others unless we love, trust and respect those we teach. I suggest we do not give our suggestions, criticisms, opinions, advice or judgment unless we are asked. (Even these reminders are only sent to those who specifically request to be emailed.) And I immediately remove those who wish to stop receiving them!) A I inviteall of us to use our energies, ideas, opinions on cleaning up our own inner and outer life. Everything we think and say and do teaches everyone everywhere.

It is imperative to change our own thoughts, our words and our actions in order to model for others a better way. To impose our choices on others is counter productive and implies we know what is best for others. To demand or threaten rejection or abandonment is an indication of our fear and lack of love. To make others feel afraid or guilty is a poor motivator for improving human behavior. (The rude and crude behaviors we see in the media and on the streets and in war, is not healing or helpful.)

Take time to live the highest Truth you know everyday with everyone. You will be the Greatest Teacher and Healer you can imagine,

If Children ( Adults) Live With……….

If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive. If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves. If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy. If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy. If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy, They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy. ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence. If children live with tolerance, they learn patience. If children live with praise, they learn appreciation. If children live with acceptance, they learn to love. If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves. If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal. If children live with sharing, they learn generosity. If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness. If children live with fairness, they learn justice. If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect. If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others.If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Loving you, Betty Lue

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