Where You Give Attention, You Empower
The old behavior modification research demonstrated that what you give attention to increases. Positive or negative attention feed the behavior. Ignoring the behavior extinguishes or diminishes it. When you feed an illness, person or situation with your focused attention, you encourage its continuance.
What do you worry about and talk about? This is attention that keeps the experience in your mind, if not in your reality. Where do you spend time, money and energy? We feed with our resources.
When we value something, we keep it in place. Whether it is fighting or helping, blaming or regretting, we will invite the same to continue. When we value having peace and purpose in our lives, we focus on living with peace and purpose. When we try to get rid of what gets in the way, we probably will still have stuff in the way.
You may notice when children have questions which we answer, they keep having questions. When we harp or nag or scold or demand someone, they often continue to create opportunities for the same. When we focus on appreciating what we want more , we feel better and they do better. When we forgive (erase with Love) what is calling for undoing, we simply let go and release.
When you want to undo a pattern, stop telling the story, discontinue trying to fix it. When you have to let go of a habit or addiction, put a positive activity in its place. When you are conflicted about what to do and where to go, simply choose and move along. Clarity and commitment will follow as long as you focus on what you want to experience.
This power tool requires that we discontinue figuring out “why”. “Why?” invites endless research and focus on the issue. When we step into how can I handle this experience differently, we move forward. When we choose to focus on what we want, to visualize, to plan and prepare, we authenticate our choice.
To heal a relationship, situation, conflict, disease, we must first begin to see it whole. Where we cannot see it whole, we can choose to see the first step is to let go of focus on brokenness. When we forgive and release, we can choose again to rewrite the script as we prefer it to be. Take time to forgive and feel grateful for the ability to make a difference in your own life and wellbeing.
Take time to explore and experiment. See what works for you to feel better, to choose more wisely. Always listen to your own heartsong, rather than take these words as your truth. Give yourself time to find a better way for yourself to claim your inner authority.
It is not attention to lack of wellness that makes you sick. It is attention to the lack of many things… Chronic attention to unwanted things holds you in a place of disallowing your physical well-being, as well as disallowing the solutions to other things you are focused upon. If you would focus your attention upon the experience of physical well-being as much as you focus upon the absence of it, not only would your recovery come quickly, but maintaining your physical well-being and balance would also be easy.
--- Abraham
You Are A Flower in the Garden of Life
If you would grow to be your best self Be patient, not demanding Accepting, not condemning Nurturing, not withholding Self-marveling, not belittling Gently guiding, not pushing & punishing
For you are more sensitive than you know Mankind is tough as war Yet delicate as flowers We can endure agonies But we open fully only to warmth & light And our need to grow is fragile as a fragrance Dispersed by storms of will To return only when those storms are still
So accept, respect, Attend your sensitivity
A flower Cannot be opened With a hammer
Anonymous
Trusting you know the way that will work better for you, Betty Lue
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