Dependent, Independent and Interdependent

When we need others to serve, help, teach, approve and lead, we depend on their resources. When we depend on ourselves to serve, help, teach, approve and lead, we are independent. When we learn to actualize our own hope and dreams, we learn to cooperate rather than compete. We grow from dependence to independence to interdependence where all benefit.

In families and society, we depend on parents and then learn to depend on ourselves. We crawl and walk and run and fly. We sleep within, sleep along side, sleep in the next room and then sleep alone. We are nursed and weaned and learn to feed ourselves and then cook and prepare food for others.

There is an appropriate path to learn and grow to become mature, yet each one follows their own. Emotionally, we may be soothed by others and then learn to self soothe and then learn to clear our fears. Mentally, we are taught and then teach ourselves and eventually teach others. Life is a natural circle and cycle of growth from conception, birth, youth, adulthood and old age.

When we get stuck in our own growth cycle, there is usually a judgment or fear over-riding. There is often a person or persons in our dependent state who may need someone to depend on them. Co-dependence is considered as the need to have someone depend on you to give you what you need. If we have parent, partner, therapist or doctor or belief that needs us to depend, we may stay dependent.

There are those that believe Love is dependent. There are those how believe it is healthy to be dependent. There are those who believe it is safe to be independent. There are those who believe it is more free to be independent.

It is valuable to ask what and whom you depend on. It is worthwhile to notice the source of your self esteem and confidence. There is value in finding our what you fear losing or letting go. The awareness of our dependencies and attachments is helpful and healing.

Awareness with non judgment is healing. Awareness without fear is freeing. Awareness with an open mind and forgiving heart is enlightening. Awareness, simply noticing and knowing develops growing trust and freedom.

Trusting yourself and freeing yourself leads to flowing love and goodness to yourself and others. Trust and freedom allow for natural healing and growth. Allowing yourself to see what is and let go of expectation, assumption and manipulation is beneficial. Being fully present without attachment ends sorrow and suffering.

Are you willing to grow up? Do you trust yourself to let go? Are you ready to simply trust and allow? Is this your time to be free?

Loving you and loving me Betty Lue

With love, Betty Lue

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