Stop Hurting!
Affirmations:
- I forgive myself for hurting anyone with fearful words or action.
- I choose to find and practice a better way in all my relationships.
- I choose to stop doing harm with words or actions.
- I commit to teach others by my kindness and compassion.
Stop Hurting YourSelf!
Stop the hurting! Just because you may have been hurt, doesn't mean it is ok. Just because you feel hurt by another, doesn't mean you need to hurt back. Just because you thought is would relieve your pain, stop hurting others.
Attack only begets more attack. Hurt causes more continuing hurt. Stop and give yourself time to think. Stop and be aware of what you do.
Recently I became aware. I didn’t know……………… Grown ups often scare and hurt their children. Adults hit, throw things, tantrum violently and scare their children.
I didn’t realize ………………. Adults think it is ok to throw things. Adults believe it doesn’t do harm to swear, threaten, scare, and hurt their families. Adults actually think it is normal to act out like a two year old.
When will they learn? When will parents realize the harm they do? When will we all grow up and stop abusive behavior? When will we understand scaring and hurting only causes more of the same?
Bullying parents create bullying children. The strong hurt the weak as animals, adult and kids. When there is no bullying at home, it will not occur in schools. When there is an end to hurting and scaring in families, the world will become safer for all.
How can it be we have not learned self-control? How come we keep on doing harm to one another? How can we not see that hurtful word are damaging? What causes us as a society to threaten, scare, hurt one another?
We can try to pretend it is OK to do harm since we experienced it as children. We can try to justify it with “I don’t know how to get my children to obey.” We can excuse our childish behavior with “being tired, drunk, angry, or feeling disrespected”. How ignorant is it to excuse physical or psychological punishment because we don't know another way?
Let us commit to grow up and control ourselves. Let us agree to never hurt another again. Let us stop doing what we know is ignorant. Let us forgive our past experiences and find a better way.
If this Reminder is for you, forgive your ignorance and choose again. We can end all fear and violence by changing ourselves. Love yourself and others with Love. “Do Unto Others What You Want Done Unto You.”
From Louise Hay ©1988 How To Love Yourself 1. STOP ALL CRITICISM Criticism never changes a thing. Refuse to criticize yourself. Accept yourself exactly as you are. Everybody changes. When you criticize yourself, your changes are negative. When you approve of yourself, your changes are positive. 2. DON’T SCARE YOURSELF Stop terrorizing yourself with your thoughts. It’s a dreadful way to live. Find a mental image that gives you pleasure (mine is yellow roses), and immediately switch your scary thought to a pleasure thought. 3. BE GENTLE AND KIND AND PATIENT Be gentle with yourself. Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself as you learn the new ways of thinking. Treat yourself as you would someone you really loved. 4. PRAISE YOURSELF Criticism breaks down the inner spirit. Praise builds it up. Praise yourself as much as you can. Tell yourself how well you are doing with every little thing. 5. BE KIND TO YOUR MIND Self hatred is only hating your own thoughts. Don’t hate yourself for having the thoughts. Gently change your thoughts. 6. SUPPORT YOURSELF Find ways to support yourself. Reach out to friends and allow them to help you. It is being strong to ask for help when you need it. 7. BE LOVING TO YOUR NEGATIVES Acknowledge that you created them to fulfill a need. Now you are finding new, positive ways to fulfill those needs. So, lovingly release the old negative patterns. 8. TAKE CARE OF YOUR BODY Learn about nutrition. What kind of fuel does your body need to have optimum energy and vitality? Learn about exercise. What kind of exercise can you enjoy? Cherish and revere the temple you live in. 9. MIRROR WORK Look into your eyes often. Express this growing sense of love you have for yourself. Forgive yourself looking into the mirror. Talk to your parents looking into the mirror. Forgive them too. At least once a day say: “I love you, I really love you!” 10. LOVE YOURSELF...DO IT NOW Don’t wait until you get well, or lose the weight, or get the new job, or the new relationship. Begin now, and do the best you can.
Trusting you with peace in our families. Betty Lue
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