Loving All Children

Make All Children Feel “Grand”! From a “GrandMother" See Below: “How Children Learn!"

All Children want to be loved and want to learn how to love you. If you love who they are, they will feel loved. If you dislike how they behave, they may feel unloved. If you show them love and respect them, you will have little people who love and respect you.

Children can be “GRAND”, when they feel safe and loved. Children can be “respectful”, when feel being respected. Children can be “helpful”, when they see others being helpful. Children will be happy, when they feel safe and learn how to love, respect and help others.

Children learn primarily through experiences, not words. Children copy what they see that works, and what doesn’t work. Children get confused by changing rules, different teachers, and ever-changing punishments and rewards. Children want to feel safe, happy, loved and valued.

Every child is totally unique. Every child is curious and open to learn. Every child responds to words, behaviors and people differently. As parenting adults, we must be open and willing to love each child in the unique way that works.

When parents, grandparents and caregivers are tired, hungry or frustrated, we don’t respond well. Our primary focus must be to love, respect and be helpful to ourselves first. When we have taken impeccable care of us, we can more easily respond with love to others. We only pick on children, because they do not have the ability to speak up for themselves.

Adults need to recognize that children copy the adults that “bully” them. Children learn to play victim or "Bully" from the grownup who threatens, demeans or shames them. Adults need to learn how to treat all children with respect and kindness. We need to learn how to teach and learn, appreciate not criticize and demonstrate the values we want.

Love the children in your care and those you see or interact with. Some children like positive words of kindness and appreciation. Some children want hugs and affection and gentle interaction. Some prefer quality time and being listened to and encouraged. Some kids want acts of service and helpfulness. Some children prefer presents, gifts… even small ones.

It is important that we observe and listen to what each child needs and wants. It is valuable to give them our very best and keep our promises. It is essential that we make no assumptions and do not take their misbehavior personally. Everything is communicating their love or their need for a loving response. We are always called to be the most conscious one and teach with our very best words and actions.

If Children (and Adults) Live With………. If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn. If children live with hostility, they learn to fight. If children live with fear, they learn to be cautious. If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves. If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy. If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy. If children live with: criticism, hostility, fear, pity, ridicule or jealousy, They will learn to: condemn, fight, be apprehensive, feel sorry for themselves, feel shy and feel envy.

If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence. If children live with tolerance, they learn patience. If children live with praise, they learn appreciation. If children live with acceptance, they learn to love. If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves. If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal. If children live with sharing, they learn generosity. If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness. If children live with fairness, they learn justice. If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect. If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and others. If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.

Loving us all to create a better world. Betty Lue

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