Parenting Responsibilities

Do You Teach Your Children Well?

Do you observe yourself with children? Your children and all children deserve to be carefully taught. Children watch adults and copy them. Children practice the words and behaviors of adults.

Children learn the language of adults. Children watch the manners of adults. Children pay attention to the lifestyle of adults. Children are imprinted by adult behavior.

Children watch TV, video games, and social media. They pay attention to their teachers and elders. Children watch and listen to the parents of their friends. Children try to do what seems to be the most acceptable behavior.

Do adults learn from their children? Do parents blame, punish, criticize and curse their kids? Do parents see themselves in how they relate and communicate? Instead most parents try to stop unacceptable behavior in their children.

Adults often tell their children what to do. Adults often drink too much, swear too much and behave inappropriately. Adults may say “Do as I say and not as I do.” Adults may nag and shame and threaten without results.

Then children learn to tell others what to do. They learn bullying behaviors with swearing, shaming and threatening. Children often defy authority, if they see it in adults. Children may rebel, get even and purposely fail to upset their parents and teachers.

What is a better way? Let the adults clean up their behavior, words and relationships. Let the adults listen sincerely, when they ask the kids, “What would work better?” Let the adults be the examples and role models, before they judge youth and teens.

Ask yourself, Do we like to be told what to do? Are we motivated by being threatened and punished? Do we respond well to angry tones or disrespectful requests? Are we able to understand the need for routine schedules and regular meals?

Would we want to learn from a smiling teacher or resentful critic? Would we enjoy our life more in a family where parents are responsible? Would we feel more secure and appreciative with healthy meals prepared by a loving parent? Would we like to learn how to fix a meal, do the laundry and clean up after ourselves, if our parents did?

Listen to your children and all children to see what they want and need. Observe what makes children feel safe and happy and inspired to do well. Give everyone the best you have everyday, including yourself. You can be a better parent and a better example.

Loving every child by giving them our very best with listening, loving, learning and letting go.

Choose your own agreements In a family meeting: Respect. Responsibility. Cooperation. Be Respectful of Yourself and Others. Be Responsible for your Thoughts, Words, Behavior and Things. Be Cooperative with Everyone in your Home . Simple Guidelines for Families Home is peaceful and safe place daily. Main living space is clean and clear every night. Everyone is responsible, respected and loved daily. Three Home Rules (for everyone!: parents and kids!) No fighting, yelling or rough-housing inside. ( You can go outside if needed.) Clean up your things before bedtime. ( Put your stuff into your room at bedtime,) Respect your parents requests. (ie. teachers, caregivers, etc)

Betty Lue

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